Fuck ' Good Vibes Only '
permission slip | all vibes matter
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It’s a challenge being a human being, otherwise, we’d all be ascended masters by now.
Many of us are trying to heal, grow and thrive through spiritual modalities and daily rituals. I love that. I am part of that. I teach that. I breathe that. But there’s one thing being taught that I have a bone to pick: the ‘Good Vibes Only’ crap.
Disclaimer: I am not saying you should stop living an inspired life. I don't recommend dwelling on your suffering, nor am I disregarding everything I believe to be true about joy, peace and balance. I am not revoking my spirit card and I certainly will live in such a way that represents these ideals, but sometimes I feel like a mere mortal and I think that should be ok. Some days, weeks, even months, I feel off balance, and that should be ok. And I believe it is a deeply spiritual act to have grace in the midst of others who are deep in the throws of their woes, too. Alternately, I am not advocating for the engagement with others that are a detriment to your mental health, I am simply suggesting that if you are ever ready, this is here for you.
"...though, I had to ask myself... when did we become so obsessed with feeling ' balanced and beautiful ' that we became afraid to feel anything other than joy?"
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G O O D V I B E S
+ O U R M I N D S
I get it, we are in control of our own destiny. We choose our thoughts: we can choose loving, grateful ones or depriving, low vibe one. The choice is ours to make, and ours only. But guess what, sometimes healing isn't a straight line. In fact, it's never that simple. It's a complex, nuanced, journey full of combusting emotions and invigorating experiences called life.
Being human means that we experience a complex, vast array of vibes and emotions. I can explain it to you logically every day, all day. You are the sky & your emotions are the clouds. Though you can feel the sensation of pain, it does not mean you need to suffer. Be the observer. Accept that you are an eternal soul having a human experience and all of this is temporary. Meditate long enough until you understand these concepts and embody them....blah blah blah. We get it. But it's not always that easy. That's ok. Don't beat yourself up for suffering when you feel you should be past that. Nor should you feel shitty because you accidentally let someone under your skin and allowed them to make you feel like crap.
Sometimes healing is blissful and at other time's its down right ugly. And within the dirty, grueling, painful parts, we don’t need to be reminded via a shiny, glittery, pink blow horn that our vibes suck.
G O O D V I B E S , T H E H E A L E R
+ E N E R G Y P R O T E C T I O N
These days it seems that if we express any real human emotion other than joy 1. we are not enlightened enough or 2. we are weak and not trust worthy enough of the Universe.
And for the suffering person who is aware of the memo that low vibes suck, they may not even feel safe expressing themselves around those who could probably listen and hold space for them because they are so afraid of stinking up the pool and expressing anything other than sunshine.
On the flip side, the healer who feels anything lower than an 'optimal, positive vibe' may not feel safe expressing his/her self because they are supposed to be seen as the ultimate source of inspiration, confidence and light.
' It feels like a vicious, alienating cycle of strong enough masks. '
We have been taught so much within the spiritual community about 'protecting our energy', but it seems that maybe we've got it all wrong. I feel like energy protection took us from the well intentioned space of creating clear and safe boundaries for ourselves into a world of spiritual hierarchy and isolation. The veil is thin, though it is worth the time to discern the difference.
The concept of energy protection always sat well with me, because I am an empath who feels just about everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, so when I discovered there was help for a gal like me, I dove in deep. But with time, I could feel my practice of energy protection transforming into what felt like a weapon against others, rather than a tool for myself.
I got my answer one day from one of my spiritual teachers on social media, and my life has not been quite the same ever since...
Jordan Bach, spiritual life coach, said something to the effect of ' rather than protecting your energy so much that you create a deep barrier and rift between yourself and all other people, why don't you create roots so deep that nothing can shake your core/ truth? ' Noted, Bach. Though I absolutely still do believe in energy protection, I believe there is a balance that needs to be maintained.
Would you rather sit in your ivory castle or get out into the trenches and create community and touch hearts? I think the latter.
When I look at sacred teachers such as Mother Theresa and those I admire most, they never alienate those they are serving by making them feel guilty, they are usually standing hand in hand with those in the depths of their suffering. I couldn't quite get over the conflict within: how is it that I am supposed to protect my energy by staying away/ creating such strong barriers from those who may tarnish it, yet those who are suffering are the ones who need my love most? I am a vessel of love, I know that, and I find it of utmost importance to remember that loving those who feel unloved is one of the highest service I can bestow upon this world, right up there with being in a state of love.
H I G H V I B E S
+ S E L F L O V E
Geezum f*ck lady, let yourself off the hook. When you're having a low vibe day, you do not always have to vibrate higher over it. You don't have to steam roll your feelings by breathing into them in meditation. In fact, sometimes you can drown them out and numb them up in some ice cream (vegan if you please), dark chocolate and a good movie or tv show.
We are all human here, and along with that comes a depth of emotions. As I said earlier, healing isn't always linear, and it sure as hell isn't always logical. Sometimes healing means sitting in the fire, standing in the shadow, and not trying to fix it. Allow such things to be ok.
H O W T O R O O T
P R O T E C T + C O N N E C T
"Love & love alone dissolves all negativity, not by attacking it, but by bathing it in higher frequencies, much as light dissolves darkness by its mere presence" | Dr. Wayne Dyer
in laymen's terms: love heals
R O O T
Meditation
grounding meditation | kundalini yoga with guru jagat via yoga journal
root chakra grounding meditation | kundalini yoga with poppy + seed via youtube
Crystals
crystals for root chakra | via healing crystals
P R O T E C T
Meditation
protection meditation/song/mantra | rakhe rakhan har info | kundalini yoga via spirit voyage
protection meditation/song/mantra | rakhe rakhan har download | kundalini yoga via spirit voyage
heart meditation for protection | kundalini yoga video via youtube
protection and prosperity meditation | kundalini yoga via 3ho
Crystals
protection crystals | via krista mitchell
I N C O N C L U S I O N
First root, then protect. Send love, always. Go in the trenches with other people, that is where they will eventually find their light. Walk with people and their shadows, they don't want to have to be alone all the time. Stay away when it means you stay sane without their presence. Allow your self to feel, even when it's shitty. As a matter of fact, love your shitty feels, or don't, but certainly don't deny them or feel guilty for them. And last, but certainly not least, be gentle with your self and others. We may be vast, infinite souls, but some days we're only human.
with love,
Carly Yolanda Trujillo